2014: The Year of the Ring

Welcome to my last blog post of 2013!!

I have been having the most relaxing vacation at home with my family, even though my baby girl has been battling a cold for most of it :/

Okay let’s get down to business.  I wanted to make sure that my last post of the year was something that my readers can marinate on and grow from throughout 2014.  As my sister and I were laughing over a list of funny 2014 church slogans the other day, it came to me: 2014: The Year of the Ring.  Let me explain…

God put it on my heart a while ago to pray for a specific group of women that I know regarding finding the man of God who is to be their husband.  I have prayed for these women randomly here and there, and have actually seen results for at least one.  I decided that I would kick it into high gear and make these prayers one of the many purposes of my time of fasting and prayer for 2014.   When God spoke The Year of The Ring to me, it was instant confirmation that put the biggest of smiles on my face.

This is for those women who are romantically unattached, but patiently waiting for Boaz.  My women who are attached and in the when will he ask? phase, it’s for you too!  Even my previously married women who have been there and done that, and are ready for God to send the right man, I got you!  Even if you’ve never been in a committed relationship and are as single as it gets, you are NOT excluded!  There is only one requirement: Do you want to be married?  Yes?  Then keep reading.  (If that’s not you, then just keep reading because I want you to, lol!)

So you admit that you want to get married. I understand that this may have felt weird for some of you given the messages that our culture sends to single women about marriage.  There are all of these rules that prevent women from having open, honest dialogue about marriage with anyone but their girlfriends, and what can they really do but help you sulk?  You can’t talk about marriage too soon because you will scare him away.  You can’t wait too late because you might waste your time.  You shouldn’t even be thinking about marriage unless you have “arrived” financially and finished all of your degrees.  And whatever you do, please don’t do anything else that might make you appear desperate or “thirsty!”

Well, let’s throw ALL of that out of the window.  Walking around pretending like marriage is not a priority when it really is is just not the move.  I am claiming that 2014 is YOUR year.  Forget about what statistics say about the number of single women, particularly in the black community.  Forget about the lie that being a mother makes you damaged marriage material.  (Seriously, that’s a lie from the pit of hell!)  Forget about the lie that “marriage isn’t for everyone” because unless you plan to pull a Paul and be celibate for the rest of your life, it’s for you too!  Finally, forsake that pang of fear that went through your mind when Gabbie Union finally got engaged at forty-two, and you thought Lord PLEASE don’t make me wait THAT long!  God made a man just for you, and he’s out there.  It’s time to claim him and call him to you!

Our father loves fulfilling the desires of our hearts, and this is no exception.  The idea of “waiting” for God to “send” you a husband is legit, but you should be praying for him in the process.  Here’s some homework for you if you haven’t done it already: make a list of your non-negotiables for a husband.  Think hard about this, and try to be flexible without compromising too much.  Now, add some things that may not be non-negotiable, but that you just find, well, attractive.  Post this list somewhere private where you can see it.  Pray over it, and declare that God will send you the man of your dreams who was created for you, and pray that you are emotionally and spiritually ready to receive him.  Do this on purpose, and do it often!  Yes, there is more to life than finding a husband, but this man will be your soul mate and life partner, so daily prayer is certainly not overkill.

As you pray, I will be praying for you!  I am excited to see what God will do in the 365 days of 2014.  I hope that nobody mistakes this for a “get like me” post, because it is far from that.  The bottom line is that I love y’all, A LOT!  Of all of my female friends and family, I would say that finding a man of God to fall in love with is the most common desire.  I want you to have that head-over-heels, The Notebook, Song of Solomon type of love that you deserve.  Let’s Get a little cocky, and claim it! 

I’m sorry that I don’t have more to offer to you about how to find a husband, but I have no clue!  All that I can tell you is this: don’t look around, but rather look up.  Let God weed through them for you, and be spiritually equipped to assume the wife role when the time comes. 

Thank you for being on this blog journey with me.  More to come in 2014!  If you want me to add you to my hubby prayers then feel free to inbox me, text me, or comment here.  Happy New Year!  I love you all! 

Food for thought:

Proverbs 31:10-12

A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
¹¹ Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.
¹² She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.

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